Following a unique format perfect for today s world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us more than one hundred rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships. It s a go-to guide brimming with Lerner s signature clarity, wit, and warmth. Couples today operate in a time famine. One or both parties are likely to be hit by one stress after another, and marriage is the first thing to suffer. Here are memorable, easy-to-grasp rules to remind readers of their own good common sense or to help them get off automatic pilot and do something different. Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ( He won t talk or She doesn t want sex ) as well as modern ones (your partner s relationship with technology). You ll also learn how to: Calm things down and warm them up Talk straight and fight fair Listen well as a spiritual practice Get a grip on intensity and over talking Connect with a distant partner Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren, and difficult in-laws Follow a twelve-step program to overcome defensiveness Know how and when to draw the line Take back your marriage when things fall apart So here it is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction."